The facts of our lives, when we are able to know them, will free us from the torment we are in. When we can bear reality thoroughly, suffering is over. Pain may exist, but it is only pain. Suffering is what we add to pain.
No matter what I'm talking about, I can involve you into the story where you think it's you doing it. You're living it. I can remind you of things that went on in your life so you go, man I had that happen to me. I've been there. I've done that.