The only way you can have it all is by delegating all the running of the home to other people - which I don't ever want to do. . . So you do it yourself, and it takes time and energy and effort. And if you give it the time, it's profoundly enjoyable.
I always wanted to play music, and always loved it. I saw a band come to school, when I was in elementary school, and wanted to play drums. I started playing drums at 11, and that's where it all started.