God says, "there's nothing you can do to be accepted, trust me and and let me change you. " And at the end of the day, acceptance isn't about what I do, or what I don't do. Acceptance is about me trusting God to take me exactly as I am and take me to something different. And I think that's what we should have for people.
When pressure builds up, don't panic. Pray! Prayer is a tremendous stress reliever. It can be your safety valve.