There is a saying in Tibetan, 'Tragedy should be utilized as a source of strength. ' No matter what sort of difficulties, how painful experience is, if we lose our hope, that's our real disaster.
If I were straight and I were trying to seduce a woman, I could do it just by standing up at the table when she came back from the bathroom. It works. Every time I do that, all the straight men are sitting at the table and their wives are kicking them. "Look at that!" "You never do that for me!"