Suffering is overated.
Never underestimate your power to change yourself; never overestimate your power to change others.
Art is drama. Any relationship to art is also a relationship to death.
If I were to see the case of a boy aged ten or eleven who's intensely erotically attracted toward a man in his twenties or thirties, if the relationship is totally mutual, and the bonding is genuinely totally mutual, then I would not call it pathological in any way.
We have a deep need to affiliate, to be around people, and no creature on earth spends as much of its life depending on others as we do
When your trying to be an adult in a relationship you seriously don't need to lie or front and try to put on this big picture or pseud like your something that your not.
But one thing you have to understand clearly is that it is the man who longs for domination, and it is the woman who dominates. This is what I call coexistence: live and let live. More than that is all imagination. If you really had known what love is. . . the basic thing is not to create a relationship. Stand aloof as the pillars of a temple stand aloof, but support the same roof. Don't destroy the individuality of the other, enhance it if you can; otherwise, at least leave it as it is, uninterfered with.
How could I be sleeping with this particular man. . . . Surely only true love could justify my lack of taste.