Mothers see the angel in us because the angel is there. If it's shown to the mother, the son has got an angel to show, hasn't he? When a son cuts somebody's throat the mother only sees it's possible for a misguided angel to act like a devil - and she's entirely right about that!
We're actually just moving one type of deficit to another. But, the problem with this second type of deficit is that you drive on it and then it falls down.