her own personality, rights, and autonomy, even when very young.">
Don't try and understand this with your mind. There will be no absolute knowing, no certainty in these thoughts and philosophies and ideas.
Adults don't know how to respect and really love their young ones. Often love is confused with possession. You say "this is my" about your child, without taking into account that you're dealing with a real person with his
her own personality, rights, and autonomy, even when very young.