The damage can fester under layers of time and change, and an ignorant, thoughtless remark can easily reopen the wound.
You are asking yourself, as all of us must: 'Who am I?'. . . 'Where am I?'. . . 'Whence do I go?' The process of enlightenment is usually slow. But, in the end, our seeking always brings a finding. These great mysteries are, after all, enshrined in complete simplicity.