It is in the book of man, not the book of god, that we must look for examples of heroism, love, pity, justice, truth, honor, humanity.
The human organism has only so much energy at its disposal. If you divert a great deal of it into any one channel, you can expect the others to collapse or atrophy. If you squander your vital energies on your emotional life, as you have been doing, plan to be physically and mentally bankrupt, as it were.