I do know that when my children are older and telling their own children about their grandmother, they will be able to say that she stood in the storm. . . and when the wind did not blow her way - - and it surely has not - - she adjusted her sails.
You should learn to say nothing that will cause you regret. You should not say what is not in your heart - or what is only in your heart for a moment. But you know this - silence is better.