If we pick a fight, then we're just as bad as them. Combat should be used just to help people who can't defend themselves, period. " "Well, if I don't fight back and they pound on me, then I'm one of the people I should be defending.
Go looking for conflict, and you'll find it. Go looking for people to take advantage of you, and they generally will. See the world as a dog-eat-dog place, and you'll always find a bigger dog looking at you as if you're his next meal. Go looking for the best in people, and you'll be amazed at how much talent, ingenuity, empathy, and good will you'll find. Ultimately, the world treats you more or less the way you expect to be treated.