In fact, the left can't survive with independently self-sufficient, self-reliant people. They aren't needed if that ever happens, or within groups of people like that. So they have to assume that people are mind-numbed robots.
Love takes off the masks that we fear we cannot live without and know we cannot live within. I use the word "love" here not merely in the personal sense but as a state of being, or a state of grace - not in the infantile American sense of being made happy but in the tough and universal sense of quest and daring and growth.