The only revenge which is essentially Christian is that of retaliating by forgiveness.
By retaliating our sufferings on the heads of those we love, we get rid of a present uneasiness and incur lasting remorse. With the accomplishment of our revenge our fondness returns; so that we feel the injury we have done them, even more than they do.
Are you able to accept blows without retaliating?" and "Are you able to endure the ordeals of jail?"