Success is built sequentially. It's one thing at a time.
The problem, thus, is not whether or not women are to combine marriage and motherhood with work or career but how they are to do so--concomitantly in a two-role continuous pattern or sequentially in a pattern involving job or career discontinuities.
To view your life as blessed does not require you to deny your pain. It simply demands a more complicated vision, one in which a condition or event is not either good or bad but is, rather, both good and bad, not sequentially, but simultaneously.