For a neutral look, avoid anything sparkly or shimmery.
Surviving a loss and letting go is only half of the story. The other half is the secret belief that we will find, in one form or another, what we have lost. And it is that potential, shimmery as a star on a clear night that helps us survives.
What's the point of having shimmery feet?
I love eye shadows that are shimmery and playing with colors. There's just more you can do with your eyes.