It is natural that our minds replay old stories, because that is our own mechanism for trying to work out unresolved problems. Yet rerunning those stories will be a fruitless looping until we learn how to move from the story into our body. This is why therapy alone often doesn't bring full healing and awakening.
Language is our way of communicating what we want and who we are. By using bad language, we diminish the divine spark within us that defines our humanity.